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Oct 8, 2014


So Monday I went to court in Other State and my wife chose to drop the Restraining Order. We spent some time discussing our perspectives and airing our grievances, and getting caught up. I also got to hug Progeny for the first time in months, for which I am profoundly grateful.

I want to thank everyone who contributed to my legal fund, or who helped where they could, even with prayers, for their help. This has been a very long ordeal. My wife and I are at a place where we can get counselling, and hopefully heal our relationship. We are still physically separated, and are working on building a relationship based on freedom and mutual love and respect, with hopefully much less toxicity.

For the time being, I am going to be concentrating on my family and on healing myself and my relationship, and will be blogging less. I am NOT hanging it up, I just won't be here as much, but will blog when I can. You are my friends, and I hope to keep ya'll in my life as well. I will be stalking lurking hanging out at ya'll's blogs still, and hopefully commenting as well. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

I guess that's it for the time being. I'll be around. See you around the intarwebs.

Jul 27, 2014

I spoke with Progeny

Today, and last week, on the 21st.

And we're working on some practical stuff.

It's progress. And I'd rather we have slow progress that builds trust than a quick reunion that falls like a house of cards.

Jul 22, 2014

Note to self

Making financial decisions during reconciliation talks = bad idea.

I made the mistake of separating my bundled car insurance from hers today. And it did not go well with her afterward.

I freely and publicly admit that was a stupid decision, and handled badly.

Jul 20, 2014

Show of good faith

My wife felt that I had slammed her in one of my posts. As a show of good faith, that I mean her no harm, I took it down. No strings attached.

Also, I got to talk to Progeny today. She sounds very happy, and it was music to hear her voice. Things are progressing.

I have a view of matters, and my wife has a view of matters. Reconciling these disparate views is going to be part of what we have to work out.

Any Electronics Engineer positions open?

I have an old friend of mine who just shared with me the happy news that she's 5 months along. Unfortunately, the father of her child is currently unemployed. He has a degree in Electronics Engineering. He's studiously job hunting.

Anyone know of anything? If you do, drop me a line and I'll pass it along.

Jul 12, 2014

First letter.

I just sent my first letter to my wife, hopefully starting reconciliation. I didn't use any of my well thought out and planned beginnings.

I may or may not have made a hash of it.

Hopefully it's a good start.

If it's not a good start hopefully I can recover from it.

I want to reconcile and have a good relationship with my wife.

One that's filled with love and mutual respect.

And likely a lifetime of counseling on my part.

Jul 10, 2014

Drafting a letter

So I've drafted a letter to my wife, but haven't sent it yet. It spells out my boundaries, and my chosen course of action should my boundaries be violated. I have sent it to my lawyer(legal advice), a pastor friend of mine(is it too harsh?), and Heroditus Huxley, who is a Professor of English and Composition(spelling, grammar, tone)

I am getting loads of advice because this is a weighty issue.

I have an appointment with a counselor, via the VA. This is one of my shows of good faith.

Words will mean nothing. I am paying very, very close attention to actions.