I spoke with Progeny

Today, and last week, on the 21st.

And we're working on some practical stuff.

It's progress. And I'd rather we have slow progress that builds trust than a quick reunion that falls like a house of cards.

Note to self

Making financial decisions during reconciliation talks = bad idea.

I made the mistake of separating my bundled car insurance from hers today. And it did not go well with her afterward.

I freely and publicly admit that was a stupid decision, and handled badly.

Show of good faith

My wife felt that I had slammed her in one of my posts. As a show of good faith, that I mean her no harm, I took it down. No strings attached.

Also, I got to talk to Progeny today. She sounds very happy, and it was music to hear her voice. Things are progressing.

I have a view of matters, and my wife has a view of matters. Reconciling these disparate views is going to be part of what we have to work out.

Any Electronics Engineer positions open?

I have an old friend of mine who just shared with me the happy news that she's 5 months along. Unfortunately, the father of her child is currently unemployed. He has a degree in Electronics Engineering. He's studiously job hunting.

Anyone know of anything? If you do, drop me a line and I'll pass it along.

First letter.

I just sent my first letter to my wife, hopefully starting reconciliation. I didn't use any of my well thought out and planned beginnings.

I may or may not have made a hash of it.

Hopefully it's a good start.

If it's not a good start hopefully I can recover from it.

I want to reconcile and have a good relationship with my wife.

One that's filled with love and mutual respect.

And likely a lifetime of counseling on my part.

Drafting a letter

So I've drafted a letter to my wife, but haven't sent it yet. It spells out my boundaries, and my chosen course of action should my boundaries be violated. I have sent it to my lawyer(legal advice), a pastor friend of mine(is it too harsh?), and Heroditus Huxley, who is a Professor of English and Composition(spelling, grammar, tone)

I am getting loads of advice because this is a weighty issue.

I have an appointment with a counselor, via the VA. This is one of my shows of good faith.

Words will mean nothing. I am paying very, very close attention to actions.

Compromise

Progeny did not come home with me. We have a compromise TRO in which I can communicate with My wife to attempt to reconcile. She determines whether these conversations are healthy.I can also communicate with Progeny electronically and if Progeny calls me it does not violate the the Order.

42 days

Tomorrow, I see my wife in court. It will have been 42 days since I last saw her. I go to fight for my good name, and hopefully prove my innocence.  And ultimately, get my daughter back. 

I am not looking forward to this.

I am determined to see it through.

FML

Independence Day

I have plenty to say

Just have to get the gag out of my mouth.

Pray. Please. For the next week. The Hearing in Other State is Monday.


Besides, ya'll would think I had Tourettes...