So I've drafted a letter to my wife, but haven't sent it yet. It spells out my boundaries, and my chosen course of action should my boundaries be violated. I have sent it to my lawyer(legal advice), a pastor friend of mine(is it too harsh?), and Heroditus Huxley, who is a Professor of English and Composition(spelling, grammar, tone)
I am getting loads of advice because this is a weighty issue.
I have an appointment with a counselor, via the VA. This is one of my shows of good faith.
Words will mean nothing. I am paying very, very close attention to actions.