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Apr 13, 2015

I am heartbroken and defeated

She told me she's filing for full custody. She asked me not to fight it. I can't, anyway. I can't afford a lawyer. I likely won't be able to afford a trip to Other State. She's offering me visitation.

I'm so tired of fighting. I spoke to my little girl on Saturday. She was still trying to fix things. She asked me to just write an E-mail telling her Mother "I love you." I told her that I do love her mom but that things had gone too far for that to fix things, that it wasn't her job to fix things, and that it wasn't her fault. All the while I was bawling because my heart was breaking. She is such a sweet, loving little girl, and I could hear in her voice that she just wants her family intact.

I then get an e-mail and a voicemail chewing me out for "breaking my daughters heart and hurting her feelings." Even being honest with my daughter is abuse in my wife's eyes. I can't do anything right.

Last night, Progeny says she doesn't want to talk to me.

All I can do is pray. And cry in private. It's all I have left. That and hope I will one day see my little girl.

I give up.

10 comments:

  1. You and Progeny are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  2. Google "pro bono fathers rights custody divorce" to see if there is no or low cost legal support

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  3. Thoughts and prayers for both of you.

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  4. Thoughts and prayers for both of you.

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  5. My 2 cents, as a divorce lawyer - I don't know what state you're in, so can't give advice but clearly this is not the end of the world. You're likely not a bad person. You're still a dad. Yes, things are gonna change, and its not gonna be easy, but your gonna get through it. You should get a lawyer. Yes, they're expensive. But think of this challenge as less of a battle and more like an opportunity to be heard. Participate in pending litigation for custody, and tell the court you want at least as much as near-equal time with your child. Make a case for that, and not just "every other weekend."

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  6. Check with legal aid in your area; see if they can offer any advice on how you can fight this. Flagunblog is right. You need legal help and assistance. Some lawyers will even work with you on payment plans for services rendered.

    I'm so sorry. My heart breaks for you and your daughter. You'll be in my prayers.

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    1. First, I was delighted to read about the Fries. Congratulations on the adoption.

      As far as Legal Aid goes, none of this is happening in the State I reside in. Feel free to E-mail me for details.

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  7. Out of curiosity, has he told any of you why we left him?

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    1. Please tell Progeny that I love her and give her a hug for me.
      Please don't start arguments with me in my comments section.
      If you continue to do so, I will close this blog to comments.

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    2. That is certainly your choice. I will respect your wishes. I only ask that you tell the whole truth. I am sorry if that offends you. I will not reply on here any more. I have always and will always love you. My intent was not to start an argument, only to ask a question. There are two sides to every story. Actually 3 sides - yours, mine and God's. I am not perfect. Progeny deserves to be and feel safe. And regarding that Saturday, I never said that you abused her that day. I only said that you hurt her feelings and disappointed her. If you are going to blog about her or I, please allow both sides to be heard, or keep us out of it. Thank you for allowing my response to be seen and our voice to be heard.

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